7 Signs: The Dude is a Dud

7 Signs that the Dude is a Dud

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The dating scene is and always will be a tough gig. The pressure to be the best version of ourselves is intense. When you first get to know someone there is a list of questions running through your mind. Your mental checklist of what makes them the right person for you. Everyone has a different list of what they want in a relationship. We want to "measure up" to their expectations and we want them to complete our criteria.

What do you do if the dude you are "hooking up with" is really a dud? How do you weed out the good ones from the bad? I've known plenty of women that will accept less than stellar qualities in a man just to have someone in their life. Settling for someone that does not completely meet the requirements on your mental list of male perfection is only okay when the missing parts are minor infractions. However, there are certain signs that the dude is a definite dud and these 7 signs should not be ignored.

1. HE'S LATE I'm not talking about a guy that runs behind a few minutes here and there. I'm talking about the guy that fails to show up on time-all the time. He forgets plans, he forgets dates, he's late by hours or fails to show up at all. He has a million excuses or he has none. His inconsiderate behavior is a major character flaw and you are not one of his priorities. Kick him to the curb.

2. HE BRAGS He loves his car, his boat, his boss and he talks non-stop about how great he is in bed or the women he has been with in the past. He blows kisses to himself in the mirror and watches himself flex his muscles. Let's be honest here. His insecurities demand constant attention and he's going to always be looking to improve his status symbols. Don't become his leftovers.

3. HE'S OVER THE TOP He appears to be driven. He wants to succeed at everything he does. His life plan is all mapped out and you are going to have to match his expectations. He wants to choose what you wear, what you eat and eventually what you say. He does not want you. He wants a fantasy. This guy is a control freak. Run away!

4. HE'S A SLOB His car has leftovers from last week sitting in the back seat. His shirt is never tucked in and his hair looks like he forgot to use a comb. His beard is wild and he thinks he looks cool with his food stained sweatshirt. You will be picking up after this bum indefinitely if you stay the course. Spray him down with some repellent and bug out quick!

5. HE WORSHIPS WOMEN Wow! Finally, a guy that is normal. Right? I mean his manners are sublime. He dresses and acts like Prince Charming. His friends and his family are perfection. You are a lucky gal. Just go ahead and ignore that thought that popped into your head about how "plastic" and "too perfect" this guy seems. Does anyone he know actually really talk to each other? Everyone seems just a bit too superficial. His mother dotes on him, he's the apple of his grandmother's eye. You're crazy to think he is anything other than your Mr. Wonderful, too, right? Given some time you are going to see that he does not know how to have anything other than a superficial relationship. When things get tough he runs to his mommy, his daddy or maybe even to that cute girl at the office. He cannot handle any of the curve balls that life throws out. Drop this baby back on his Mommy's lap.

6. HE'S A LONE WOLF He's got that look. You know the look. His wardrobe consists of leather jackets and blue jeans and he's likely the guy sitting alone at the end of the bar with a cool one chilling in his hand, he's that cool. He's made his own way in the world. He does not owe anyone anything and he does not want anything. He's a challenge and you like a challenge. You are going to do back flips trying to get this guy to break a real sweat over you. Let this guy fry his own steak!

7. HE'S UNAVAILABLE Literally, the guy is not available. He is either emotionally unavailable or attached to someone else. He talks nonstop about how rotten his ex is or was to him. His kids demand around the clock attention. His wife really has no idea he is cheating on her or she just does not care. He claims that you make his life so much better because you are not taking anything away from him. When he gets tired of playing with you he is going home.

Don't Despair Ladies! There are plenty of fish in the sea. You just need to know how to catch them. Check out "How to Catch a Man" here at Our Four Suitcases!